Blame, what exactly is blame? The dictionary defines blame as the following:
To hold another person or group responsible for perceived faults real, imagined, or merely invented for pejorative purposes.
Blame is an act of censure, reproach, and often outright condemnation.
Blame is used to place responsibility and accountability for faults on the blamed person or group.
However, I have my own personal definition: blame is the displaced fears of one person projected onto another person in order to alleviate a sense of personal well-being. Thus, I blame you for something I did wrong, so that I don't have to look in the mirror every morning and realise that I made the mistake. It's basic psychology. However, I'm no psychologist, and this is deduced through basic observation of the number of people blaming one another throughout the world.
Let's start small, I blame my brother for misplacing a book I was reading when in actual fact, I'm a scatterbrain, I left the book lying on the table in the bedroom upstairs when I thought it was placed on the coffee table by the television.
At work, when you don't get your projects done on time and correctly, you'll be blamed for its failure. Accountability and ability are 2 completely different things. You may have the ability to complete the project, but are you really accountable for every single thing that goes wrong with it? Is it in essence, your fault that something failed, or when something goes wrong every single time? There are certain things that are well beyond our control. However, nobody seems to believe that fact, so we blame God for it, an imaginary being who is not there - another form of displaced blame!
Governments blame other governments for something that was wrong in their country, so that they don't have to deal with the problem, at the same time, it makes it look like they're actually doing something about it, which they're not. They might be doing something about it, but it's nicer to blame somebody else for their own mistakes and shortcomings.
At work, when you don't get your projects done on time and correctly, you'll be blamed for its failure. Accountability and ability are 2 completely different things. You may have the ability to complete the project, but are you really accountable for every single thing that goes wrong with it? Is it in essence, your fault that something failed, or when something goes wrong every single time? There are certain things that are well beyond our control. However, nobody seems to believe that fact, so we blame God for it, an imaginary being who is not there - another form of displaced blame!
Governments blame other governments for something that was wrong in their country, so that they don't have to deal with the problem, at the same time, it makes it look like they're actually doing something about it, which they're not. They might be doing something about it, but it's nicer to blame somebody else for their own mistakes and shortcomings.
Most people who enjoy blaming others usually have some kind of inferiority complex, but most of the time, they're just bald - trying to outdo their opponent is a very taxing process indeed! Strangely enough, blame is like a genetic trait that flies around the world like the wind. It is very contagious because when I see someone else blaming someone else, I believe that I can do it too. Blame can mostly be found in developing to developed countries. The more educated you are, the more you know about something, the more blame will reside inside you to release its full potential. Underdeveloped countries tend to have a lesser percentage of the blame "gene", although it is still ever-present in its latent state.
How do we overcome blame? No amount of help or counselling will reduce the blaming that we all carry. Anything that rubs you the wrong way, you will definitely blame somebody else for your bad day.
Blame, we have to learn to live with it. Perhaps blaming is another way the soul copes with stress and in a way, it does relief stress to a certain extent, until reality comes back and slaps you in the face all over again and suddenly you do realise that it is, after all, nobody else's fault but your own!
The secret to success is knowing who to blame for your failures!
How do we overcome blame? No amount of help or counselling will reduce the blaming that we all carry. Anything that rubs you the wrong way, you will definitely blame somebody else for your bad day.
Blame, we have to learn to live with it. Perhaps blaming is another way the soul copes with stress and in a way, it does relief stress to a certain extent, until reality comes back and slaps you in the face all over again and suddenly you do realise that it is, after all, nobody else's fault but your own!
The secret to success is knowing who to blame for your failures!
